lent is almost here.

I will see you all on the flipside.

check the ol twitterbox on the side for mini updates.


Arranged Marriage

I think I know why arranged marriage would have worked during ancient historical times like with old testament stories in a way that couldn't work now, or would be very hard to have work now.

The cultural differences at the time would have been minimal between neighboring tribes such that a man and a woman from these tribes could live together without ever having known each other because they would have the same cultural assumptions about roles, power, sex, money, children etc.
Whereas today, we have long courtship rituals that go way beyond what they used to in order to find out if ones cultural assumptions match up enough with the other's in a way that will minimize conflict and maximize happiness.

Of course, this is different again from Christian marriage which assumes that holiness is the desired outcome, not happiness, in which case the cultural differences may be a tool with which to sharpen one another towards God.

but the point is that marriage is different now than it was in biblical times, not because people have changed, but because we live in a society where a multitude of cultures coexist in ways that young people can't really fathom.

It's tough.



We are drinking champagne, celebrating a year of marriage and the arrival home of our son. He's beautiful.

beyond that, I have no words.


I think life will have to be lived with gratitude every second in order to come close to thanking God for everything he has given me. Otherwise, I will have failed to properly thank God. which probably has already happened. But Glory to God for all things.


Yawny Zeke

Originally uploaded by pasivirta
Here is a short vid. of my son. Ain't he wonderful!


A Picture of My Son

This is Ezekiel.


Ezekiel Frank Veli Pasivirta

9lbs. 51 cm.

C-section. (he tried to come out bum first)

no pictures yet, but they are on the way. He's adorable.

He has brown hair, my nose, laurenn's lips, and a large noggin. 37cm around.

Laurenn is at VGH for another day or two. Her mom was a great help, as was our doula Laura and our midwives.

pictures will be here (and flickr) as soon as they are available.

Thanks for your prayers, keep em coming. Baby and Mom are both doing fine.



WallBlank.comis featuring a friend of mine's art today, and its just a cool site, so you should all go and look at it.

and I want to go surfing again.

Still no baby. but today I ordered a stroller. it's a sweet stroller too. like the Subaru WRX of strollers. It's going to arrive friday, so hopefully Baby gets here before then.

This is honestly the weirdest state of Limbo I have ever been in.


escaping relativism and the need for proof.

This is what we orthodox have escaped!

I have realized today that by making the claim that there is such a thing as a correct answer to the questions: a) how do we interpret the bible and b) how do we do the work of the people, that is, how do we do church?

We in the modern (post) west have been brought up to understand that due to the nature of interpretation being something that everyone does at every moment, there are as many interpretations as there are people and moments. Therefore, truth is unknowable and ungraspable, and really, there isn't such a thing as truth, because reality is only as much as can be perceived, due to Descartes and his dumb mental experiments regarding the existence of God and doubt. I think therefore I am. guh. idiot.
anyways. We as orthodox converts have inherited an intellectual tradition that is (thank God) devoid of such foolishness. Orthodox countries, ie, those outside the west, have maintained the idea that there is such a thing as truth (a correct answer) and that it can be found. quite easily actually. AND, there is no master-slave relationship between reason and faith. There is, in fact, no division because in the east, there is much less of a tendency to be dualist in thought. I have not done the proper research to tell you how this all began, but I know that it is so much a part of why the east and the west split, and also why a good many of my friends who have plumbed a fairly deep section of western intellectual history have found it wanting and jumped across the pond to a land where it is okay to not live by proof.
If we were to live truly by what we were taught in school and believe only what we see, none of us would be Christians. you can't prove God, or Christ, or the resurrection. but that is FINE, nay, GOOD. because it's not about proving the existence of God. I am never going to prove anything to you, think about Lazarus, even if the rich man returned from the dead, would that really convince the unbelievers?

naw. proof is ridiculous. and so unnecessary.

Proof flies in the face of trust, which is where relationships come from.

oh, and the platitudes from the mouths of the yoga instructors are getting funnier each time I go. but I was complimented too by one of them on how I have improved, and that was nice. I can actually do that knees on the floor in front while head touches the ground behind and holding my elbows above my head thing.


Politics etc.

This is me:

My Political Views
I am a left social moderate
Left: 5.18, Libertarian: 0.45

Political Spectrum Quiz

aaannd this also is me:

My Culture War Stance
Score: -3.18

Political Spectrum Quiz

apparently this too:

My Foreign Policy Views
Score: -7.59

Political Spectrum Quiz

Granted, a lot of the questions were clearly aimed at Americans. and, like the Ochlophobist said, there is not a whole of stock to be put into something like this, but its fun to find out.

Oh, and no baby yet



I finally understand that in order to really understand music theory, learning composition is the only way, because its really the only reason anyone would need to understand it, especially on a larger scale. I don't mean naming chords, but that's a small part of it. To compose properly, one has to have a broad view of the beginning, middle and end of a piece and how it is all going to relate to itself, and that could only come by either being a ridiculous genius like Bach, or by painstaking work to understand the function of various situations that only music creates.

Music alters time.
Visual art alters space.
music videos do both. sadly.